Spotted in the Diaries: Texting
Book publicity is in full swing over here, and today I was talking to a magazine reporter, who asked how dating has changed since the 1980s thanks to social media and texting. I have no idea. I started collecting diaries in 2007.
I do know one thing about texting: I have not once, in 2000 diaries, ever seen a significant positive emotional development following conversations via text message. Zero times. What I have seen is hundreds of diarists wondering/obsessing/agonizing over the wording of text messages. It’s because texts communicate facts, not emotion. So the other person is left guessing on tone. Guessing is time consuming?
I think the reporter was really asking for her own purposes–I used to do that too when I was a reporter–so this is what I told her: Worry about what happens in person. Really. Because the best, most witty text relationship in the world is just that: a text relationship. Texts are for scheduling and cute midday hellos and flirtatious one-liners, and if it’s your thing, sexting. Everything else gets a voice.